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Why doesn’t God show Himself as much today as He did in the stories from the Bible?

Real Questions from Real Teenagers

Why doesn’t God show Himself as much today as He did in the stories from the Bible?

This is a great question. I’ve wondered the same thing myself. Wouldn’t it just be awesome if God would make himself absolutely, undeniably visible and present? I would love to witness a miracle. When I run out, he could just turn my water into more coffee. Or writing some kind of message in the clouds. Or healing someone instantly. Or turning all the water in our high school to blood.

This question is closely related to the previous question about convincing people that God is real. Just like we won’t be won over by scientific findings or philosophical debates, we also won’t be won over even if we witnessed a miracle with our own eyes or heard God’s voice with our own ears. I know we think we would instantly change our lives and be completely faithful as long as we live if only God would reveal himself to us in a big way. But that simply is not the case. It never was the case. The Bible itself seems to go out of its way to show us this.

     Then the eleven disciples went to Galilee, to the mountain where Jesus had told them to go. When they saw him, they worshiped him; but some doubted.
(Matthew 28:16-17)

Time and time again throughout the gospels, the disciples of Jesus witness amazing miracles, hear Jesus’ powerful teachings, they even hear the voice of God affirming Jesus’ identity. And yet they still had little faith. In the verse above, they were face to face with the resurrected Christ getting ready to witness his ascension – but some doubted.

Interestingly enough, Jesus even tells us that this would be the case. In the parable of the Rich Man and Lazarus, the rich man begs Abraham to send Lazarus back from the dead to warn the man’s brothers about what awaits them if they don’t change. But look at Abraham’s ominous and telling response:
     “He said to him, ‘If they do not listen to Moses and the Prophets, they will not be convinced even if someone rises from the dead.’”
(Luke 16:31)

They will not be convinced…even if someone rises from the dead. **wink wink nudge nudge**

We read the stories in the Bible and get jealous of them. We want to see God in that way, too. I want to offer some bullet-point thoughts in response to this question, otherwise I could end up with a whole book.

  • Who am I to say God doesn’t show up like that anymore? Just because I’ve never witnessed a miracle doesn’t mean they don’t happen. I’ve heard reports and claims. Miracles, by their very nature, are not repeatable or verifiable. There are over 7.6 Billion people on the planet. If some of them have a divine mystical encounter with God, who am I to say, “NOPE! Doesn’t happen!” And let’s not forget that miracles aren’t the only way God can show up.
  • I believe that the power of God is still living and active in the world. I’ve heard stories from missionaries that make my hair stand on end. I believe that God is at work preparing unreached people groups to receive the good news of salvation through Jesus Christ. Those stories just aren’t going to make the headline news or even the church bulletin.
  • Jesus would tell his disciples before his death that when he leaves them he will send the Holy Spirit to them. Jesus told them that they would do even greater things than they saw during his own ministry (John 14).
  • John reminds us that God does in fact show up – when his people love each other. Check this out: No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us. (1 John 4:12) That’s right. We’ve never seen God, but if we love one another He is right there with us. Do you want to see God? Do you want God to show up in a big way? Do you want the impossible to become possible? Then look around. He is right here among us when we are in a community of love.
  • And let’s not forget that God wasn’t showing up all the time in peoples’ lives even in the Bible stories. Abraham was 70 years old before he met God. Moses was 80 years old when God spoke to him from that bush. God isn’t even mentioned in the story of Esther, but he is clearly at work behind the scenes. The stories we have of faithful men and women in the Bible are condensed, brief glimpses into their lives. The vast majority of their time was spent NOT hearing from God but doing the mundane, everyday tasks that life requires.
I would love nothing more than for God to fully reveal himself to me and others. I want God to show up in a big way that is beyond dispute and cannot be debunked. But then it wouldn’t be faith. However, if I have eyes to see, then I may just start seeing God in the most unexpected of places doing some pretty amazing things.
What do you think? Does God show up today in big, noticeable ways? Have you ever had an unexplained encounter with the divine? Let me know in the comments!

How Do You Convince Someone That God and Jesus Are Real?

Real Questions from Real Teenagers

How Do You Convince Someone That God and Jesus Are Real?

For this and other questions, entire books could be written. How many hours do you have? But I will attempt to be thorough yet concise. So, here we go.

     Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.
(Hebrews 11:1)

Simply put, I don’t try to convince anyone. That’s not really my job. Faith is one of those weird things. There are those who believe, those who don’t, and those who are on the fence. For those of us who have faith, it’s not our job to convince and persuade others to believe in God. I know that sounds counter intuitive, but hear me out.

Faith or a lack thereof is often a result of many different factors: environment, upbringing, trauma, personal experience, knowledge, exposure, and more. I’m not going to sit here and pretend that if I had been born in Mosul or Delhi or Beijing that I would for sure still be a Christian. I trace my faith in Christ back to my parents. If they hadn’t been Christians, then would I? I don’t know. Faith is often handed down through families and social systems in which we find ourselves.

That doesn’t mean there is no hope for those who were born into different situations than me. People can come to faith no matter what their background. Here’s what I would say to those of us who already believe:

1) Everyone is religious. Humans have a natural curiosity about the world and their purpose in it. We latch onto whatever it is that gives our lives meaning. Some find it in Christ, others in Allah, or Buddha, or sports, or politics, or materialism, or family. We all seek meaning and purpose. We all want to outlast our lives in some way. That can be a good place to start with someone.

     “People of Athens! I see that in every way you are very religious. For as I walked around and looked carefully at your objects of worship, I even found an altar with this inscription: to an unknown god. So you are ignorant of the very thing you worship—and this is what I am going to proclaim to you…”
(Acts 17:22-23)

Maybe you have a friend who is curious about God and Christianity. You don’t begin by trying to prove scientifically that God exists. You begin with conversations about meaning and purpose. I can bet that most people who have no faith and are not members of a church community have a difficult time finding meaning, purpose, and belonging.

2) You represent Christ to everyone else. We are Christ’s ambassadors. When people look at us, what do they see? Are we judgmental or full of grace? Are we condemning or merciful? Are we “holier than thou” or humble? Do they know that we love them no matter what or that we’re only interested in converting them?

     We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us. We implore you on Christ’s behalf: Be reconciled to God.
(2 Corinthians 5:20)

It’s not my job to convince others that God exists. It’s my job to live as if he does. People can spot a fake pretty easily. Does your life line up with what you claim to believe? Jesus told us to let our lights shine so that others may see our good works and glorify God.

3) You don’t have to have all the answers. One of my favorite miracle stories in the gospels is from John 9. Jesus healed a blind man. The man was then questioned by the religious leaders who were upset with Jesus and looking for a reason to have him arrested. They claimed that Jesus was a sinner. Listen to the formerly blind man’s response:

     “Whether he is a sinner or not, I don’t know. One thing I do know. I was blind but now I see!”
(John 9:25)


Saying “I don’t know” is better than saying the wrong thing. You don’t have to know everything. You just need to tell your story. The most convincing argument for God is a changed life.

     But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect…
(1 Peter 3:15)


People are not typically won over through debates or arguments or scientific findings. People are won over through relationships, belonging, purpose, and love. Paul would remind us that we could be the most amazingly religious people on the planet – speaking in tongues, knowing the deep secrets of the universe, sacrificing our bodies on account of our faith – but if we don’t love others, then it counts for nothing.

     “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
(John 13:34-35)


If the conversation gets off on apologetics, science, philosophy, or whatever, then it’s ok to follow that path, but don’t let that be your starting point. Let love be your starting point.

Empires Gonna Empire

I am a Christ-follower. I try to make that very clear through the way I live and the things I talk about. My highest allegiance is to Christ. My citizenship is in heaven. I live under His kingship in His kingdom. Period.

This past weekend I was able to take sixteen students and four other adult chaperones to Gatlinburg, TN, for Winterfest, and annual teen youth conference that brings 10,000+ Christian students together for worship and biblical lessons. The theme this year was timely. The conference centered around the story of Daniel and his friends in Babylon. The main title was “Not Now. Not Ever.” We learned about what it means to live in Babylon and how to stay faithful even in the darkness and turmoil of this evil world.

I’ve always loved the story of Daniel (after whom I am named), but I’ve grown to appreciate him even more as I’ve aged and become more aware of the realities around me.

However, I latched onto something new this time through. It’s not that I had never noticed this before, but it really struck a cord with me. Read through these verses and see if you notice a theme.

     Then King Nebuchadnezzar fell prostrate before Daniel and paid him honor and ordered that an offering and incense be presented to him. The king said to Daniel, “Surely your God is the God of gods and the Lord of kings and a revealer of mysteries, for you were able to reveal this mystery.”
     Then the king placed Daniel in a high position and lavished many gifts on him. He made him ruler over the entire province of Babylon and placed him in charge of all its wise men. Moreover, at Daniel’s request the king appointed Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego administrators over the province of Babylon, while Daniel himself remained at the royal court.
(Daniel 2:46-49)

     Then Nebuchadnezzar said, “Praise be to the God of Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego, who has sent his angel and rescued his servants! They trusted in him and defied the king’s command and were willing to give up their lives rather than serve or worship any god except their own God. Therefore I decree that the people of any nation or language who say anything against the God of Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego be cut into pieces and their houses be turned into piles of rubble, for no other god can save in this way.”
     Then the king promoted Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego in the province of Babylon.
(Daniel 3:28-30)

How great are his signs,
    how mighty his wonders!
His kingdom is an eternal kingdom;
    his dominion endures from generation to generation.
(Daniel 4:3)

At the end of that time, I, Nebuchadnezzar, raised my eyes toward heaven, and my sanity was restored. Then I praised the Most High; I honored and glorified him who lives forever.
His dominion is an eternal dominion;
    his kingdom endures from generation to generation.
All the peoples of the earth
    are regarded as nothing.
He does as he pleases
    with the powers of heaven
    and the peoples of the earth.
No one can hold back his hand
    or say to him: “What have you done?”
     At the same time that my sanity was restored, my honor and splendor were returned to me for the glory of my kingdom. My advisers and nobles sought me out, and I was restored to my throne and became even greater than before. Now I, Nebuchadnezzar, praise and exalt and glorify the King of heaven, because everything he does is right and all his ways are just. And those who walk in pride he is able to humble.
(Daniel 4:34-37)

Then at Belshazzar’s command, Daniel was clothed in purple, a gold chain was placed around his neck, and he was proclaimed the third highest ruler in the kingdom.
(Daniel 5:29)

     “I issue a decree that in every part of my kingdom people must fear and reverence the God of Daniel.
“For he is the living God
    and he endures forever;
his kingdom will not be destroyed,
    his dominion will never end.
He rescues and he saves;
    he performs signs and wonders
    in the heavens and on the earth.
He has rescued Daniel
    from the power of the lions.”
     So Daniel prospered during the reign of Darius and the reign of Cyrus the Persian.
(Daniel 6:26-28)

Did you notice any sort of theme? Throughout the first six chapters of Daniel (the narrative half of the book) we see kings and emperors honoring Daniel and his friends, promoting them to places of honor, and declaring the praises of the God of Israel.

That should be awesome, right? That’s what we want, isn’t it?

Not so fast.

Nebuchadnezzar destroyed the Temple of the LORD and plundered all the sacred objects from inside. He overthrew Jerusalem and took God’s people captive. He forced all the people to worship an image of himself. He became so proud that it drove him mad.

Is Nebuchadnezzar really the one you want endorsing the God of Israel?

His grandson, Belshazzar, was a useless piece of garbage. He was a terrible ruler. His capital city was under siege by the Medo-Persian army and he threw a party that lasted for weeks. During that party he used the sacred objects from Israel’s Temple.

Sure, he acknowledged Daniel’s God and promoted Daniel to third in command, but it was all an empty gesture. Too little, too late.

Darius allowed himself to be duped by a group of jealous viceroys. They got him to sign a law forcing everyone to pray to the King for a month. What? This prideful folly forced him to sentence Daniel to a night in the lions’ den. Only after God’s saving miracle did Darius offer any kind of praise or acknowledgement of God.

And let’s not forget what would happen during his son’s reign (see Esther).

What’s my point in highlighting this?

I am not judging their hearts. They may have been sincere (although I get the feeling Belshazzar wasn’t sincere about anything in his life). But it was a flash in the pan. There was no real change of heart. Babylon would never be a nation that honored the LORD. Persia had their own gods. These emperors may have said and done some things to appease the Jewish population living among them, but they really didn’t care. There was no long-term change.

Nebuchadnezzar, Belshazzar, and Darius are all set up in stark opposition to Daniel, Hananiah, Mishael, and Azariah. God did something big and amazing, so the emperors offered words of praise. God allowed their homeland to be destroyed and their whole lives to be uprooted, and these faithful Jewish men honored God with all their heart, soul, mind, and strength.

They never took the words of these pagan rulers as anything other than words, lip service. It didn’t make one ounce of difference to Daniel et al whether the kings acknowledged God or not. They knew that the Empires are going to do whatever is best of the Empire. They never thought, Well everything is great and Nebuchadnezzar is an awesome guy. He’s even one of us! Sure, he committed some atrocities, sure he’s prideful and arrogant. But don’t you remember that time he promoted Daniel? Don’t you remember that time he praised our God? The media just wants you to think he’s a bloodthirsty tyrant, but we know the real Nebuchadnezzar.


Too many of us are fooled by politicians who use certain buzzwords and phrases that they know will win over religious voters. I am always wary when a politician running for office prays in public or quotes Scripture. They do that for a reason. Too often that reason is to lower our guards and win us over to their side. They don’t really want to honor God and put God first. They want votes. They want power. They want authority. They want notoriety. They want honor for themselves.

I’m not here to judge the hearts of men. I am positive there are many sincere, faithful Christians serving in the political sector. The story of Daniel inspires us to care about the cities and nations in which we live. Daniel was a faithful servant to God first and foremost, but he also worked to ensure the peace and prosperity of Babylon. Civil service is not the problem. We need Christians in Washington and in our local court houses.

But we must be more discerning about the ones in power. Jesus told us not to judge, but he also told us that we can know what kind of person someone is by looking at the fruit of their lives. If a politician is making Christian-sounding statements and offering lip service to the Christian faith, be sure to look at the fruit of their lives and their policies. Are they consistent? Or is there a glaring disconnect?

And we must all ask ourselves the same question. Are we consistent? Or is there a glaring disconnect between our religious beliefs and our political stance?

Daniel shows us what it could look like to live faithfully among a people who are increasingly hostile toward our faith. Daniel shows us what a life of integrity and consistency looks like. The Empires of the world are only consistent in that they will do whatever is best for the Empire. Sometimes that means persecuting people of faith. Other times that means pandering to them. May we not be fooled by the ways of Empire and political power.

May we all walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which we were called. May we all live faithful, consistent lives as strangers and foreigners. May we never forget that our citizenship is in heaven, that Christ is our King, and that our highest allegiance is to God alone.

BOOK REVIEW – Crazy Busy: A (Mercifully) Short Book about a (Really) Big Problem

Crazy Busy: A (Mercifully) Short Book about a (Really) Big ProblemCrazy Busy: A (Mercifully) Short Book about a (Really) Big Problem by Kevin DeYoung

My rating: 4 of 5 stars

This is a very short book and a quick read, but don’t be deceived. Your toes will be stepped on! I think DeYoung does a great job of blending scientific research, biblical principles, and anecdotes to make his case.

I think we are all too busy for our own good. But I appreciate (and am attacked by) the fact that he points out: maybe it’s not that we’re too busy, maybe we’re just busy with the wrong things. In today’s world it’s so easy to waste away our time on social media, YouTube, or Netflix and feel like we’ve actually accomplished something. We waste time at work scrolling through our Twitter feed and then we spend time at home catching up on work emails.

No matter what your walk of life – whether you’re a stay-at-home parent, a CEO, a pastor, or a plumber – this book is bound to punch you in the gut but also offer hope. DeYoung addresses common culprits in our busyness – pride, expectations, priorities & boundaries, parenting, screen time, lack of rest & time off, and entitlement.

It all boils down to this. We were created to do work, to share in God’s creative process. We were also given the need to rest, relax, and recover. There are times we need to work, like Martha (Luke 10), and there are times we need to sit quietly at the feet of Jesus, like Mary. Our devotion to Christ should be our highest calling. Time is the one resource we all have in equal supply, so let’s focus on the things that matter most by embracing God’s rhythm for our lives.

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Women Should Learn (and So Should Men)

Our church is getting ready to make the “radical” move to incorporate female leaders in our ministries and worship assembly. I know, I know… you may be thinking It’s 2020, and it’s about time!


But for a lot of people this is one of the defining characteristics of what makes a church a “Church of Christ.” We’re the church that doesn’t use instruments and doesn’t allow women to lead. But that is slowly changing, and I do mean slowly.


Sure, some of the larger churches of Christ around the US have already started using instrumentation in their worship services and allowing the voices of women to be featured. But those are not the majority. It’s still very rare for a church of our size and location (smaller, rural church) to make that kind of move.

So why did we do it? Why rock the boat?

We believe that it is the right thing to do in order to more fully become the Kingdom of God as those living in the New Creation. It’s not a gimmick to attract more members. We’re not simply catering to the demands of a few vocal families. We are trying to be true to the mandate of Scripture and the prayer of Christ – “Your Kingdom come. Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.”

And yes, that means being faithful to those two passages in 1 Corinthians 14 and 1 Timothy 2.

Let me explain.

Paul’s letters were nearly always written to address specific problems in specific churches. The church in Corinth was having a TON of issues, but one of them was a disorderly and disruptive worship. They had people vying for attention and power. They were in competition with each other to outdo and outshine the others’ gifts. Some followed Paul, others Apollos, and others Peter. The rich weren’t waiting for the poor to get off work before sharing communion. People were speaking all sorts of languages without any interpretations. Preachers were speaking over each other. Women were interrupting the whole service with their questions. It was a MESS.

So in one small part of his entire letter addressing all these issues and many more, Paul addresses the matter of women derailing the whole service by questioning the speakers.

     Women [or wives] should remain silent in the churches. They are not allowed to speak, but must be in submission, as the law says. If they want to inquire about something, they should ask their own husbands at home; for it is disgraceful for a woman [or wife] to speak in the church.
(1 Corinthians 14:34-35)

Let’s view this passage through three simple questions. 1) What’s the problem? 2) What’s the short-term solution? 3) What’s the long-term solution?

1) What’s the problem? Paul seems to be specifically addressing the outspoken but uneducated women in the church. This indicates that they were probably Greek women with no background in the Jewish religion or worship practices. Men and women were separated in most Synagogues during their Sabbath worship gatherings, but they were all reverent and respectful. Reverent and respectful were NOT words to describe the Greek women of Corinth. They were stereotypically boisterous and assertive. So it’s most likely that Paul is addressing a very specific group of women who didn’t understand much of what was happening or what the speakers meant. They would interrupt with a bunch of questions – which can derail an entire worship gathering.

2) What’s the short-term solution? Simply put, these women need to be respectful and quiet. By interrupting all the time and interjecting their own questions and uneducated opinions, they are actually bringing disgrace on the whole group. These women needed to keep quiet…for now.

3) What’s the long-term solution? By all means, ask your questions! He doesn’t want these women to remain ignorant and uninformed. They need the freedom to ask their questions, and the men (or their husbands) need to give them answers. Paul is encouraging these religious discussions to follow them home. Think about that – husbands and wives having discussions about faith together in their own homes. That was radical in Paul’s day. Often the husband and wife would follow different gods and each keep to their own. Even today, how often do Christian couples talk seriously and deeply about their faith at home, or even *gasp* in front of the kids? But this is right in keeping with the great Shema  of Deuteronomy 6:
     Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.

The point? Women should be able to ask their questions and get some answers. Then they will be able to actively participate in a way that encourages and builds up the whole church (1 Corinthians 11:2-16; 14:24-26).

Now let’s turn to 1 Timothy 2:11-15 and give it the same treatment.

     A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; she must be quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve. And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner. But women will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety.

1) What’s the problem? This one is a little tricky because there are a couple of options. Obviously there were women who were promoting some kind of false teaching about Creation, Adam and Eve, Sin, Child-birth, etc. They were trying to wrestle authority away from the men either overtly or subversively. They were probably former worshipers of Artemis, the Greek goddess of the hunt and midwifery. It could even be that Paul is addressing a very specific group of young widows who were getting all up in everyone’s business.

     As for younger widows, do not put them on such a list. For when their sensual desires overcome their dedication to Christ, they want to marry. Thus they bring judgment on themselves, because they have broken their first pledge. Besides, they get into the habit of being idle and going about from house to house. And not only do they become idlers, but also busybodies who talk nonsense, saying things they ought not to. So I counsel younger widows to marry, to have children, to manage their homes and to give the enemy no opportunity for slander. Some have in fact already turned away to follow Satan.
(1 Timothy 5:11-15)

2) What’s the short-term solution? Same as the 1 Corinthians passage, Paul instructs these women to keep quiet, stop trying to control everything, and stop promoting incorrect teachings.

3) What’s the long-term solution? It’s right there in the first line – they should learn in quietness and submission. I would argue that learning can only happen with quietness and submission regardless of gender. That’s how people learn. These women should be taught. They should learn. And what would they learn? They would probably learn about Creation. They would learn about sin and temptation. They would learn Jesus’ warning not to lord authority over others. They would learn that God, not Artemis, watches over his people. They would learn to live a life of faith, love, holiness, and propriety.

In both instances, Paul is addressing a specific group of women causing a specific problem. He offers a short-term, immediate solution (stay quiet), but also a long-term solution (teach them, let them ask their questions, give them answers).

There’s a fourth question that must be asked, though: 4) To what end?

I must admit that in my experience in the churches of Christ, we have this part of Paul’s instructions nailed down. Women are given every opportunity to learn alongside the men. Some of the most knowledgeable Christians I know are godly, faithful women. They have taught and inspired me from the time I was young. We do a good job of teaching our women.

But to what end?

It’s my understanding that knowledge isn’t an end in and of itself. We are called to know Christ, but we are also called to share that knowledge with others.

Why were the Corinthian women encouraged to ask their husbands questions about faith and receive answers to their questions as they had religious discussions in the home? It would make sense to me, in keeping with the context, that these women would then be able to pray and prophesy (1 Corinthians 11) and to offer a song, a word of encouragement, or a message from God’s word (1 Corinthians 14) in an orderly and understandable way that encourages and builds up the body of Christ.

Why were the women of Ephesus encouraged to learn? In keeping with the context, it would seem that they should learn in order to become better leaders and more sound in their teaching. By learning in quietness and submission, they can go on to lead lives that are examples of faith to everyone around them.

I want to wrap this up with one final point.

The things that Paul says about women can equally be applied to men. Men should also learn in quietness and submission. Men shouldn’t assume authority over anyone for its own sake. If there is a man teaching something incorrect, then it should be corrected. Men should live lives of love, holiness, faithfulness, and propriety. Men shouldn’t be disruptive with their questions, but should be able to ask their questions in an appropriate context and get answers.

It is my prayer that we can all learn in quietness and submission, that we wouldn’t assume authority over each other but would submit to one another out of reverence for Christ, that we can all find answers to the questions we may have, and that our homes would be filled with conversations about God.

JESUS ASKED: You Don’t Want To Leave, Too, Do You?

There are people who hear my story and wonder, “How are you still in church? How are you still a Christian? Most people would have walked away and never looked back.”

If you know my (and my wife’s) story, then you know what I’m talking about. If not, that’s not for today. Suffice it to say that there was a point in our lives when we were hurt by the people we looked up to the most. When we need them, our friends turned their backs on us and adults in the church talked crap about us. They made it painfully obvious that we weren’t welcome.

It would have been so easy to give up. In fact, I wouldn’t be surprised if there were some of my friends who, seeing the way we were treated, walked away from the church knowing that we were just one more example of judgment and condemnation where there should have been mercy and grace.

But we didn’t leave. We never left.

The reality is that people are leaving the church. They are walking out the doors and never coming back. And they aren’t just leaving the church, they’re leaving their faith in Christ. The reasons are nearly endless:
-The politicization of the pulpit
-The oppressive treatment of women
-The pitiful track record with issues of race
-The judgment and ostracism of the LGBT community
-The bait-and-switch that comes from growing up in youth group and then having to be a part of “big church”
-The enticing offers of the secular world
-The anti-science position of many religious leaders
-Ongoing coverups of sexual abuse

I could go on, but you get the point.

It used to be that young people would leave church during their college and young adult years, but they would come back after a time because they wanted their kids to be raised in church. That is increasingly not the case. Once they’re gone, they’re gone for good.

My goal in this post is not to sound alarmist or overly pessimistic. In fact, people have been turning their backs on Jesus almost from the beginning.

There’s this weird scene in John 6. Jesus had just fed 5,000 men with just five loaves of bread and a couple of fish. The crowds wanted to make him king by force, but he never sought out political power. He and his disciples left the crowds behind, but they kept on following him.

Jesus could tell that they were just after a free meal, they wanted to see more miracles, they wanted a show. But instead, he told them, “Eat me” (my paraphrase).

Literally. This is where he has that whole discussion with them about how he is the bread of life. He is the manna, the bread of heaven. His flesh is real food and his blood is real drink. Jesus tells them, “Eat me.” And they were like, “I’m out.”

From this time many of his disciples turned back and no longer followed him.
“You do not want to leave too, do you?” Jesus asked the Twelve.
Simon Peter answered him, “Lord, to whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life. We have come to believe and to know that you are the Holy One of God.”
(John 6:66-69)

Let’s just be honest. There are times that it is hard to be a Christian. Full transparency, I’m finding it increasingly difficult to count myself among the Christian community I see on Twitter and Facebook. If that’s the best that Evangelicalism has to offer, I’m out, too.

But Peter’s faith wasn’t in the church. It wasn’t in the crowds. It wasn’t in the religious establishment or the government or political parties. Peter’s faith was in Christ.

People suck. Nobody would have blamed us if we had just walked away after high school. We wanted to. There are people we still don’t want to talk to. There are churches we still don’t want to go back to. But we had to learn early on that our faith is in Christ, not the church. People can say and do the worst things. Jesus says, “Neither do I condemn you, now go and sin no more.”

Crowds are fickle. People waffle. If all our preachers taught like Jesus, there might not be any people left in the pews. He seemed to intentionally drive people away.

He told us to eat his flesh and drink his blood.

He told us that lusting after women was as bad as sleeping with them.

He told us that being angry with a brother put us on the same level as a murderer.

He told us to love our enemies and pray for our persecutors.

He told us to turn the other cheek when someone slaps us.

He told us that it’s nearly impossible for a rich person to enter the kingdom of heaven.

He told us that we can’t serve both God and possessions.

He told us that we can’t rely on our own good deeds in order to get into heaven.

He told us that if we follow him, we better be ready to die.

He told us that tax collectors and prostitutes are entering the Kingdom of Heaven in front of the religious establishment.

He actively turned people away who wanted to follow him. Not because he didn’t want them, but because they didn’t truly want HIM.

One of my professors at Harding drove this into us – “What we win them with is what we win them to.” It would have been incredibly easy for Jesus to win people over with miracles and healings and free food. But Jesus was calling them (and us) to something much deeper, something much more radical.

When I see the statistics about people leaving the church and the rise of those who check “None” on the census question about religion, I have one question.


What did we win them with in the first place?

Are we winning them with flashy lights and a professional worship band?
Are we winning them with lock-ins and trips to amusement parks?
Are we winning them with games and gossip sessions?
Are we winning them with “we’re right and everyone else is wrong?”
Are we winning them with shame, guilt, and threats of eternal damnation?

When I needed it the most, I didn’t find love, grace, forgiveness, and support in my church. But I did find it in Christ. I found it in John 8 and John 4 and Luke 7 and John 21.

My faith is not in the church or in religion. My faith is in Christ. Where else could I go? He has the words of eternal life. And now I want nothing more than to share those words of life with others, so that they can find grace and love and acceptance and forgiveness in the church.

If you’ve walked away from it all, would you consider coming back to Jesus?

If you’re on the brink, just know that you’re not going to find what you need out there somewhere. The world, as we’ve seen, can be every bit as quick to condemn as the church.

Let’s talk. Let me introduce you to the Jesus I know.

“You do not want to leave too, do you?” Jesus asked the Twelve.
Simon Peter answered him, “Lord, to whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life. We have come to believe and to know that you are the Holy One of God.”

Women of Faith

Women should remain silent in the churches. They are not allowed to speak, but must be in submission, as the law says. If they want to inquire about something, they should ask their own husbands at home; for it is disgraceful for a woman to speak in the church.
1 Corinthians 14:34-35
A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; she must be quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve. And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner. But women will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety.
1 Timothy 2:11-15 
Silence.
Quietness.
Humility.
Submission.
These are not simply rules of attitudes and behaviors to control women. These are virtues that are to be embraced by all God’s people.
Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see. This is what the ancients were commended for.
By faith we understand that the universe was formed at God’s command, so that what is seen was not made out of what was visible. By faith we understand that God created male and female in His own image. He blessed them and placed them in charge as co-rulers over creation.
And it was very good.
By faith Eve, though she was the first to fall prey to the deceiver’s wicked schemes, was the first to receive mercy from God and the grace to become the mother of us all.
By faith Hagar, the dark-skinned African slave girl, when she had run away from her owners with her infant son and was rescued in the desert by God himself, became the first person to give God a name – El Roi, saying, “I have seen the God who sees me.” By faith, she raised her son under the blessing and protection of God, and her lineage produced a great nation as God had promised.
By faith Sarah, who was past childbearing age, was enabled to bear children because she considered him faithful who had made the promise.
By faith Miriam kept a watchful eye over her baby brother, daring to approach the princess and coming up with a plan to keep Moses in her family as long as possible. By faith she became a great prophet and co-leader of her people alongside Moses and Aaron as God delivered them from slavery.
By faith the prostitute Rahab, because she welcomed the spies, was not killed with those who were disobedient.
By faith Deborah, the great prophet and Judge, routed the Canaanite army and freed her people from their oppression. By faith Jael ended the life of the Canaanite General, thus insuring a victory for the Israelites.
By faith Ruth chose to leave her own homeland and join her mother-in-law as a peasant in the land of Israel. By faith she diligently took care of Naomi, showing her honor and respect. By faith this Moabite woman became the great-great grandmother of King David.
By faith Hannah prayed fervently for a son though she was barren. God answered her prayer, and by faith she devoted her son, Samuel, to the service of the Lord.
By faith Abigail intervened to stop two powerful, foolhardy men from declaring all out war.
By faith Huldah the prophet, when asked by King Josiah about the book of the Law found in the Temple, gave a message from the Lord that would spark religious revival for a generation.
By faith Esther became Queen of Persia and risked her own life to save the lives of thousands of her countrymen.
By faith Mary, the young teenage peasant girl from Nazareth, became the mother of our Savior, Christ Jesus our Lord. By faith all generations call her blessed because the Mighty One has done great things through her.
By faith Anna the prophet spent decades worshiping and praying in the Temple until the day the Messiah appeared. By faith she told everyone who would listen about the baby Jesus, the Messiah, God’s Son.
By faith Mary, the sister of Martha and Lazarus, chose to be counted among Jesus’ disciples rather than conform to the expectations of women in her day. By faith she was commended by Jesus for choosing the most important thing, the only thing that matters.
By faith Mary Magdalene, on the first day of the week, discovered the empty tomb, took the good news about the resurrection to the other disciples, and was the first person to have a personal encounter with the resurrected Lord.
By faith Lydia, a business woman and leader of the Jewish synagogue in Philippi, became the first Greek convert.
By faith Priscilla formed a preaching team with her husband Aquila, spreading the gospel of Christ across the Roman Empire. By faith she taught the way of the Lord more accurately to Apollos, who would also become an influential and respected preacher.
By faith Phoebe, a deacon of the church in Cenchrea and a wealthy benefactor of Paul’s ministry, was entrusted with the task of delivering, reading, and explaining Paul’s letter to the church in Rome.
By faith Junia was considered outstanding among the apostles, risking her own life and safety to spread the Gospel throughout the Empire alongside her husband and Paul.
And what more shall I say? I don’t have time to tell about Joanna, Susanna, Philip’s daughters, Chloe, Euodia and Syntyche, Tryphena and Tryphosa, Julia, Persis, Tabitha, or Eunice and Lois. By faith these women, and more, were considered co-laborers for the Lord alongside Paul, Timothy, Silas, and Barnabas. They preached and prayed and prophesied. They planted churches and hosted churches in their homes. They were evangelists and teachers and deacons and missionaries. They were financial supporters of Jesus and of Paul. They were counted among the disciples on the Day of Pentecost and received the same outpouring of the Spirit that allowed them all to preach in various languages to the thousands gathered in Jerusalem that day.
Jesus healed women, respected women, engaged in deep theological conversations with women, and commended women for their faith. Jesus invited women into his inner circle of disciples and declared that all his female followers were considered his sisters. Women were the heroes in his parables. He first revealed his true identity as Messiah to a Samaritan Woman. His first miracle was performed at the request of his mother. The Canaanite woman was the only person clever enough to understand one of Jesus’ parables at the first telling. And it was the women who were entrusted with taking the news of Jesus’ resurrection to the rest of the disciples.
Matthew went out of his way to insert five women in the lineage of Jesus – Tamar, Rahab, Ruth, Bathsheba, and Mary.
From the beginning women were created alongside men as equals. Both are bearers of the Imago Dei. Both are blessed to be fruitful and multiply, to fill the earth and subdue it, and to rule over all of creation as God’s ambassadors. As it was in the beginning, so it shall be in the New Creation, the Kingdom of Heaven.
The Bible is full of women who said and did amazing things by faith. If we’re not careful, we can overlook or ignore these women – just as men have been doing for centuries. But God is the God who sees. May we all see with His eyes.
So Christ himself gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors and teachers, to equip his people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ.
Ephesians 4:11-13
Were there female apostles?
                      evangelists?
                prophets?
                pastors?
                teachers?
Did women work to build up and equip the church?
And who is it that calls people to these tasks?
Christ.
Sometimes I feel like Jeremiah:
But if I say, “I will not mention his word or speak anymore in his name,” his word is in my heart like a fire, a fire shut up in my bones. I am weary of holding it in; indeed, I cannot.
Jeremiah 20:9
I believe I have been called by God to ministry. To do any other thing would be to go against God’s will for my life. Yet we expect the women who are also called and gifted to sit back and hold it in, like a fire inside their bones.
We must ask ourselves…
Are we living under the curse of the Fall, plagued by power struggles, pain, oppression, dominance, and sin?
Or are we living as members of the New Creation, the Kingdom of God?
For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.
Matthew 12:50
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! 
2 Corinthians 5:17
Neither circumcision nor uncircumcision means anything; what counts is the new creation.
Galatians 6:15
There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.
Galatians 3:28
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Ephesians 5:21
Nevertheless, in the Lord woman is not independent of man, nor is man independent of woman. For as woman came from man, so also man is born of woman. But everything comes from God.
1 Corinthians 11:11-12
These women of faith who serve and lead God’s people are not the exception to the rule. They are the exceptions that PROVE the rule. God calls people according to their faithfulness, their gifts, and their willingness to serve, not according to their gender, ethnicity, or socioeconomic status.
And now, a blessing.
May we all, like Eve, receive mercy and grace from God, knowing that our past failures do not have to define us.
May we all, like Hagar, see the God who sees us at our weakest and lowest moments.
May we all, like Deborah, courageously face whatever battles God calls us to, no matter who else is with us.
May we all, like Rahab, put our trust in God rather than in our own culture and society.
May we all, like Huldah, speak truth about the Word of God, calling our community to revival.
May we all, like Mary, choose to sit at the feet of our Master rather than succumb to the busyness of life.
May we all, like Mary Magdalene, boldly proclaim the resurrection of our Lord to whomever will listen.
May we all, like Priscilla, be willing to teach the whole truth in order to correct falsehood or incompleteness. 
May we all, like Fanny J. Crosby, make the worship of God our highest calling no matter what challenges we face.
(By the way, all the hymns this morning were written by a blind female teacher and poet from New York. She wrote more than 9,000 hymns in her lifetime. She has been teaching and inspiring us in worship for 150 years. “…when I get to heaven, the first face that shall ever gladden my sight will be that of my Savior.” -Fanny J. Crosby)
May we all learn in quietness and submission, not assuming authority over each other but serving one another in love.
May we all find answers to our questions and continue these religious discussions in our homes.
May we all be men and women of faith of whom the world is not worthy. And may God never be ashamed to be called our God.

JESUS ASKED: Where Shall We Buy Bread for All These People?

Did you know that there are only a few stories shared in all four Gospels? Mark, Matthew, and Luke have a ton of similarities, but very few stories make it into all four. The “Feeding of the 5,000” is one of them. If this story was important enough for all four gospel writers to include, then it’s important enough for us to pay attention to.

Today I want to focus on John’s account. (So far, all these questions occur in John’s Gospel.) Let’s just read it and then we’ll look closely at the question Jesus asked.

     When Jesus looked up and saw a great crowd coming toward him, he said to Philip, “Where shall we buy bread for these people to eat?” He asked this only to test him, for he already had in mind what he was going to do.
     Philip answered him, “It would take more than half a year’s wages to buy enough bread for each one to have a bite!”
     Another of his disciples, Andrew, Simon Peter’s brother, spoke up, “Here is a boy with five small barley loaves and two small fish, but how far will they go among so many?”
     Jesus said, “Have the people sit down.” There was plenty of grass in that place, and they sat down (about five thousand men were there). Jesus then took the loaves, gave thanks, and distributed to those who were seated as much as they wanted. He did the same with the fish.
(John 6:5-11)


There is actually a lot happening in this story. I don’t have time to get into all the nuance and allusions within it. This is a callback to Moses and the Israelites in the wilderness, it’s a nod to the Passover, there are Messianic prophecies at play, and the people want to make him King afterward. But let’s focus on that question.

Where shall we buy bread for these people to eat?


Let’s think about it in today’s terms. There are 5,000 men. To feed everyone, even at a measly $5 per meal, would take $25,000! Philip isn’t that far off even by today’s standards. It would take about half a year’s salary to buy enough food for everyone to have even a snack.

In other words, it’s impossible.

There are some indications that these men were militia men who were willing to follow Jesus as he marched on Jerusalem to oust the Roman occupation. But no one brought food. One of the logistical nightmares of war, especially in ancient times, was feeding a literal army. They would loot and pillage and hunt and forage and plunder whatever they could find from the local villages along the way.

Jesus doesn’t ask where they could get food for all these guys. He asks where they could buy food. I’m trying to imagine what would happen at lunch time in our small town if suddenly 5,000 extra people showed up wanting to eat. All the restaurants would be over capacity. There wouldn’t be enough in stock at the one grocery store in town.

The disciples look at the need of all these people and see a logistical nightmare. Jesus looks at the need and sees an opportunity for God’s glory to be revealed.

Where shall we buy bread for these people to eat?

I’ve said it before, but I believe the primary ethic of the Kingdom of God can be summed up as “little things with great love.” Imagine being this young boy in the crowd of thousands. You have a lunch because your mom was looking out for you. Everyone else is getting hungry. You can hear the rumbling stomachs. People are getting hangry. You pull out your bread and fish to sneak a bite when the disciples begin asking if anyone has food. Do you volunteer your lunch? Or do you tuck it away really quick and hope no one noticed.

Did Jesus need this boy’s lunch in order to perform this kind of miracle? Probably not. He had the power of God the Father. He could have literally rained down manna from heaven. But this one kid’s sacrifice was at the heart of this great miracle.

When we pray “Give us this day our daily bread” God hears and answers. But we have turned that into “Give me this day all the things I want to have for a comfortable life at the standard of living I desire.” We end up sounding like the rich/lucky guy in Jesus’ parable:
     “The ground of a certain rich man yielded an abundant harvest. He thought to himself, ‘What shall I do? I have no place to store my crops.’
     “Then he said, ‘This is what I’ll do. I will tear down my barns and build bigger ones, and there I will store my surplus grain. And I’ll say to myself, “You have plenty of grain laid up for many years. Take life easy; eat, drink and be merry.”’
     “But God said to him, ‘You fool! This very night your life will be demanded from you. Then who will get what you have prepared for yourself?’
     “This is how it will be with whoever stores up things for themselves but is not rich toward God.”
(Luke 12:16-21)


The man in this parable was concerned about three people: Me, Myself, and I. He suffered from what I’ve heard called “I-Me-My Syndrome.” I can almost guarantee that this young boy in the crowd of 5,000 was not the only one with any food on him. But he was the only one willing to give up what he had so that others could eat, too.

And I wouldn’t be surprised to find out if this young boy served as the inspiration for what took place in the book of Acts.
     They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. Everyone was filled with awe at the many wonders and signs performed by the apostles. All the believers were together and had everything in common. They sold property and possessions to give to anyone who had need.
(Acts 2:42-45)


     All the believers were one in heart and mind. No one claimed that any of their possessions was their own, but they shared everything they had. With great power the apostles continued to testify to the resurrection of the Lord Jesus. And God’s grace was so powerfully at work in them all that there were no needy persons among them. For from time to time those who owned land or houses sold them, brought the money from the sales and put it at the apostles’ feet, and it was distributed to anyone who had need.
(Acts 4:31-35)


It can be overwhelming to look around at the shear amount of need in our communities. There doesn’t ever seem to be enough to go around. When we take a look at the drug problem, homelessness, unemployment, food scarcity, alcoholism, poverty, incarceration, crime, and more, we can be left wondering “Where can we buy bread for all these people?” It may seem impossible. But we are a part of the church that literally invented the concept of hospitals and food banks and places of open education.

I think Jesus would agree with what Ghandi said: “The world has enough for everyone’s need, but not for everyone’s greed.” Our churches could be doing more if we were serious about pooling our resources. So often we hoard so much stuff that we need to build extra storage spaces.

What will it take to get back to the spirit of the first Christians? What will it take to say “there were no needy persons among them”?

Jesus asked, “Where shall we buy bread for all these people?”

JESUS ASKED: Do You Want To Get Well?

Humans are funny creatures. One of our greatest traits is our ability to adapt to almost any set of circumstances. Humans have lived in some of the most extreme climates on the planet – deserts, frozen tundras, dense jungles, and southern Indiana. We can adapt and thrive in just about any kind of environment.

Just don’t ask us to change.

It’s really weird. We’re super adaptive, but we resist change. We fight to the bitter end to make sure things stay exactly the same. Because we get comfortable. Adapting is doable but difficult. Staying the same takes very little mental or physical effort. We are strong and we adapt…but we would really rather not. We’d much prefer to take the path of least resistance, even if it’s to our detriment.

Jesus was known for his miracles. Once word got around that he could heal people, the broken and diseased masses began making their way to him. He could heal virtually any disease or disability. That was even part of his own divinely foretold mission statement from way back in Isaiah:
The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me,
    because the Lord has anointed me
    to proclaim good news to the poor.
He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted,
    to proclaim freedom for the captives
    and release from darkness for the prisoners,
to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor
    and the day of vengeance of our God,
to comfort all who mourn,
    and provide for those who grieve in Zion…
(Isaiah 61:1-2)

When his cousin, John the Baptist, wanted reassurance that Jesus really was the Messiah, Jesus sent this word back to John:
     “Go back and report to John what you have seen and heard: The blind receive sight, the lame walk, those who have leprosy are cleansed, the deaf hear, the dead are raised, and the good news is proclaimed to the poor.”
(Luke 7:22)

Healing was a vital part of Jesus’ ministry. That’s why this interaction in John 5 is so strange. Notice the question Jesus asks and the man’s response.
     Some time later, Jesus went up to Jerusalem for one of the Jewish festivals. Now there is in Jerusalem near the Sheep Gate a pool, which in Aramaic is called Bethesda and which is surrounded by five covered colonnades. Here a great number of disabled people used to lie—the blind, the lame, the paralyzed. One who was there had been an invalid for thirty-eight years. When Jesus saw him lying there and learned that he had been in this condition for a long time, he asked him, “Do you want to get well?”
     “Sir,” the invalid replied, “I have no one to help me into the pool when the water is stirred. While I am trying to get in, someone else goes down ahead of me.”
     Then Jesus said to him, “Get up! Pick up your mat and walk.” At once the man was cured; he picked up his mat and walked.
(John 5:1-9)

Some manuscripts add an explanation about why all these sick and disabled people would gather around this particular pool: “they waited for the moving of the waters. From time to time an angel of the Lord would come down and stir up the waters. The first one into the pool after each such disturbance would be cured of whatever disease they had.”

Did this really happen? We don’t know. Apparently there was enough of a belief in the healing power of the water that numerous people gathered there daily, sometimes for years.

This guy had been paralyzed for 38 years. Day after day he had a friend or family member drop him off by the pool just for a small chance that he would be made well. Or had he given up hope by this point? It seems to me that this man was actually good with his lot in life. He had come to accept it. He wasn’t ever going to get well, so he may as well spend his days with people who understood his predicament.

Then along came Jesus. Out of all the people in need around that pool, Jesus saw this man. Why did he single him out? I don’t know. Maybe Jesus somehow knew that this guy had been there longer than anyone else. We’re not sure. But I find it fascinating that Jesus asked the man, “Do you want to get well?”

Most of us would think, Of course he wants to get well! Don’t ask, just heal him.Obviously. But Jesus asked. And the man didn’t say Yes, of course! Instead, he did what we all do. He started making excuses for why he wasn’t better already.
I have no one to help me.
Someone else always beats me to it.
The system is rigged.
They want me to fail.
It’s not fair.

I can almost guarantee you he had those lines rehearsed in his head. He probably talked about it to his other paralyzed buddies. He probably complained loudly and often to everyone else around the pool, getting them all worked up and outraged, too. Misery loves company, after all.

Do you want to get well?

What if Jesus asked us that question, too? Imagine if Jesus saw what you were “venting” about on Facebook or Twitter and he commented, “Do you want to make this better?” Ugh…isn’t that the worst? There are times you just want to complain and vent your frustrations. The last thing you want or need is someone going into fix-it mode for you. (I’m super guilty of doing that, by the way. If you have a problem, I want to help you fix it or find solutions. Sorry!)

Do you want things to get better with your spouse, or do you just want to complain?
Do you want your kids to become more mature and better behaved, or do you just want to vent?
Do you want to mend relationships with your co-worker, or do you just want to bad mouth them behind their backs?
Do you want to get through this depression, or do you just want to stay in bed and hope you can sleep it away?
Do you want to get over your porn addiction, or do you just want to go to bed feeling guilty every night?
Do you want to lose weight, or do you just want to fat-shame yourself?
Do you want to get over your anger problem, or do you just want to continuously apologize to your family for losing your cool?

Do you want to get well?

There’s a very real phenomenon in the world of counseling and mental health. Therapists cannot help a client unless they are willing to do the work. A counselor can give a client all the tools necessary to improve their mental health and mend relationships, but unless that client is willing to utilize those tools, no healing can occur. We are excellent at coming up with excuses and procrastinating. We all say we want to change and get better, but we get comfortable with our pain and brokenness.

Often we find ourselves doing exactly what this paralyzed man did.
1) We blame others. (I have no one to help me into the water…)
Our problems would all go away if so-and-so would just do whatever. Or maybe we become too dependent on others, so when they don’t show up for us we just give up. We’ve never done it on our own, so we don’t think we can do it on our own. It’s always someone else’s fault. Our happiness and wellbeing are reliant on what others do and say.

2) We over estimate what we are actually doing. (When I try to get in…)
We have a tendency to overestimate our activity level and underestimate the amount of fat and sugar in our diets – then we wonder why we aren’t losing weight. We download a meditation app and think we’re well on our way to solving our anger problem. We go to church once or twice a month and think we’re solid Christians. We try to get away with doing the absolute bare minimum, and when that doesn’t work, we throw our hands up in surrender, because what else could we be doing?

3) We compare ourselves to others. (someone else goes down ahead of me)
I’m just not as outgoing as they are. I’m just not as naturally pretty as she is. They make it look so easy. They didn’t really work for it, they just got lucky. Any of this sounding familiar? Sometimes seeing those before and after pics on Instagram can be harmful. When we compare our worst days to other peoples’ best days, it can lead us to give up. We think we’ll never be as strong or thin or pretty or smart or wealthy or emotionally stable as those other people, so why even bother?

Do you want to get well?

Jesus didn’t buy his excuses. He didn’t say, “Oh you poor thing. Tell me more, and let me throw a pity party for you.” He just told him, “Get up! Pick up your mat and walk.” The guy was instantly cured. But if you read the rest of the story, he’s not really happy about it. This healing took place on the Sabbath, and the religious leaders were upset that Jesus would command someone to “do work” by carrying his mat on the Sabbath.

And the guy totally ratted Jesus out for it!
Later Jesus found him at the temple and said to him, “See, you are well again. Stop sinning or something worse may happen to you.” The man went away and told the Jewish leaders that it was Jesus who had made him well.

I really don’t think this man wanted to be healed. He didn’t actually want to get well. He had a community at that pool. This paralyzed life was all he had known for 38 years. He had grown used to it and comfortable with it. Now he was forced to change, to leave the group by the pool and to live an actual life for himself. He could no longer have all the excuses.

What would happen if Jesus took away your excuses? What if there was no more blaming others, no more overestimating yourself, no more comparisons? For some of us that wouldn’t be liberating, that would be terrifying. But it doesn’t have to be. Because the cool thing is that Jesus promises us that he will be with us every step of the way. He will never leave us or forsake us. He is with us always, even to the end of the age. Examine your excuses. Rip off that bandaid in one swift, decisive motion. Pick up your mat, whatever the “mat” might be for you, and walk.

“Do you want to get well?” Jesus asked.

JESUS ASKED: Will You Give Me a Drink?

I find it fascinating that Jesus can take just about any kind of interaction and turn it into an in depth theological conversation that changes peoples’ lives.

Jesus and his disciples were traveling from Judea in the south to Galilee in the north. The region of Samaria lay in between. Most “good Jews” would completely bypass Samaria, going many miles out of their way to avoid stepping foot in the region. But not Jesus. He takes his disciples straight through.

When they got near the town of Sychar, Jesus hung out by the well outside town while he sent his disciples to go find some food. (It’s nice to see these disciples doing the tasks of lowly interns!) While Jesus is chilling by himself around noon, a woman came up to the well to draw water. Instantly, this sends all kinds of messages about what kind of woman she is. Most women in the town would have gone out together early in the day when it was cooler, and they would help each other out and socialize for a while. Not this woman. She waited and came by herself.

Jesus knew all he needed to know about this woman. She has been passed around from man to man. She had cycled through five husbands and then had seemingly given up on marriage. Now she was shacking up with a guy she wasn’t married to. Not exactly the kind of woman your average “good guy” would want to bring home to meet his mother.

Jesus knew all this about her and more. He knew what kind of woman she was. He knew how it would look if he struck up a conversation with her. He should have ignored her. He should have pretended she was invisible – just like everyone else did. He had absolutely no business interacting with her.

But come on, that’s not Jesus.

     When a Samaritan woman came to draw water, Jesus said to her, “Will you give me a drink?” (His disciples had gone into the town to buy food.)
     The Samaritan woman said to him, “You are a Jew and I am a Samaritan woman. How can you ask me for a drink?” (For Jews do not associate with Samaritans.)
     Jesus answered her, “If you knew the gift of God and who it is that asks you for a drink, you would have asked him and he would have given you living water.”
     “Sir,” the woman said, “you have nothing to draw with and the well is deep. Where can you get this living water? Are you greater than our father Jacob, who gave us the well and drank from it himself, as did also his sons and his livestock?”
     Jesus answered, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.”
     The woman said to him, “Sir, give me this water so that I won’t get thirsty and have to keep coming here to draw water.”
(John 4:7-15)


Will you give me a drink?

I really appreciate the glimpses of Jesus’ humanity in the gospels. Sometimes we get too hung up on the fact that he is the Son of God that we forget he is also the Son of Man. He is fully divine AND fully human. He got hungry, tired, angry, sad, and thirsty. He had been traveling all day. He’s thirsty. Here comes a woman with a rope and a bucket.

Will you give me a drink?

It’s such a simple request, yet in these circumstances this was absolutely shocking. Even she was taken aback. She was probably bracing herself to be scorned and ridiculed – at least non-verbally.

My wife went in to talk to one of the after-school program directors about our youngest son’s behavior. He had not been all that pleasant for them. Our older son had told us some things – from his perspective, at least – but we needed to really hear what was happening. When she told me about the interaction, she told me that the director was super tense and bracing to be yelled at. She was timid and defensive and apologetic. But the more my wife reassured her that she did nothing wrong and that we weren’t upset with her at all, her whole body language and demeanor changed. She was relieved. This poor woman was so used to being yelled at by other parents, that was her go-to reaction when my wife just had some questions about our son’s behavior. We felt so bad for her!

I can imagine this Samaritan woman responding in much the same way. Guarded… defensive… skeptical… confused?… relieved… curious…

All these reactions taking place in the seconds after being asked a simple question:

Will you give me a drink?

He is putting himself at her mercy. It’s up to her to say yes or no. He probably could have told her, but he asked. He put the ball in her court, so to speak. His question required her to stop and think through the situation.

Jesus never demands anything from us. He never forces us into a situation. There’s always the option to say no to him. In fact, that’s what plays out in the scariest scene in the Bible. In Matthew 25 Jesus foretells of a time when everyone will be sorted as “sheep” and “goats” to his right and to his left. The “sheep” are those who clothed him, fed him, tended to his needs, visited him. They didn’t know it was him, but whenever they did those things to “the least of these,” they were showing hospitality to Jesus himself. Conversely, those on his left were those who couldn’t be bothered to show hospitality or kindness to “the least of these.” Whenever they turned their backs on someone in need, they turned their backs on the Son of God.

Jesus would also tell his disciples this in Matthew 10:40-42 –
     “Anyone who welcomes you welcomes me, and anyone who welcomes me welcomes the one who sent me. Whoever welcomes a prophet as a prophet will receive a prophet’s reward, and whoever welcomes a righteous person as a righteous person will receive a righteous person’s reward. And if anyone gives even a cup of cold water to one of these little ones who is my disciple, truly I tell you, that person will certainly not lose their reward.”


Will you give me a drink?


John would tell us in his first epistle,
     If anyone has material possessions and sees a brother or sister in need but has no pity on them, how can the love of God be in that person? Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.
(1 John 3:17-18)


Or the preacher in Hebrews reminds us,
     Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have shown hospitality to angels without knowing it.
(Hebrews 13:2)


This woman had no idea who was asking her for a drink of water. Jesus, stunningly, reveals to her that he is in fact The Messiah! This was the first and one of the only people to whom he openly unveils his true identity. Would she deny The Messiah a drink of water? More importantly, would she accept the Living Water which The Messiah is now offering to her?

Will you give me a drink?

So often we fall into the trap of thinking God requires big things from us. We think that we’re not really good Christians unless we go on mission trips or lead Bible studies, or convert our entire sports team, or pastor a church, or preach to thousands on TV or in stadiums across the country. But God rarely calls people to great things. More often than not, God calls us to do “little things with great love” (as is the legacy of St. Therese of Lisieux).

Jesus is not asking this woman for anything spectacular, just something to quench his thirst. And in return, he offers her something that will quench the thirst within her, the unsatisfied desires she has within her that keep her hostage in this lifestyle of chasing love from men. This little action of giving a drink didn’t change Jesus’ life, but it most definitely changed hers.

“Will you give me a drink?” Jesus asked.


If you want to learn more about the importance of Christian hospitality, I highly recommend the book Stranger God, by Richard Beck. It’s a phenomenal read.